Tips on lesbian dating
15 lesbian dating tips that make all the difference Before you date, you first have to find a lesbian date. They are out there, and you will find them when you know where to look.
The first thing you need is someone to help you seek out like-minded girls—a lesbian wingwoman.
If for example, you’re a butch who makes the first move, please don’t write me glowering comments; I can think of a much better use for your time. If her Okcupid profile says she has a great sense of humor, she doesn’t. If she says she has “abandonment issues,” what she means is she will hide your car keys. If you shake her off she will fall to her knees in the driveway weeping. If she says she likes sex because it’s an effective means toward building an emotional connection, run.
Here, let me find my list…Lesbian Dating FUCT: The first rule of lesbian dating is you do not talk about lesbian dating. If she resembles Bad Willow in her profile photo, remember, it doesn’t matter how much you love bad Willow, anyone who looks like that is either time traveling from 1999 or works at American Apparel. (Not that I’ve been there or anything.)If her cat hates you, you’re screwed. If it’s been two months and you’re still only talking about sex, run.
If you do go on a date with a woman, unless you are in a lesbian bar, it is likely that some bloke will see two women having a warm conversation and you will be asked – “What are you lovely ladies doing all on your own? You will politely remind him that it is not possible for two people chatting together to be ‘on their own’, and soon you will have changed from ‘lovely ladies’ to ‘bloody rug munchers’. One of the great things about being a lesbian is not having to focus most of your conversations on men – Bridget Jones style.
“She’s butch,” my newly single friend said, as if that explained everything.“Right,” I nodded, because I thought it did.“didn’the.” She spoke as if to a three-year-old, albeit one moonlighting as a psychotherapist.“Right,” I said.
“Because she’s butch.”My friend sat back in her chair.
“But, I thought that meant she would make the first move.”I still claim my laugh was of the gentle, accepting variety.“You sound like Ursula the Sea-witch,” she said. ”My friend isn’t some recently-out nineteen-year-old. She’s had her share of long term relationships; she’s been to the Michigan Women’s Festival, for Christ sake.
For lesbians and bisexual women, you like her and want to tell her, but you're afraid if you do, you'll lose her friendship. If you re in college, you might be too young to go to bars to meet other LGBT people.You will be invited to house parties, sleepovers, community events, movie screenings, late night drives; and discover more BFF’s than Paris Hilton in a few weeks!Well-meaning lezzie couples will try and fix you with friends, and you will get more than your dose of dating advice and phone numbers.Magazines and websites don’t run out of that sort of stuff.However, once you step into the choo-choo train to go to the land of queer, there aren’t any tour guides to help ease you out of the closet and into girl-on-girl dating.