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In their eyes older women are independent, got their shit together, established, know what they want, and can really be sexy. The biggest difficulty I have is that the men I want to date, men my age, don’t want to date me. That came out in my Tinder experiment too — I got such little interest from men my own age. They are the ‘I’ll never settle’ types that consider three months as a serious long-term relationship. I am the ugly duckling that turned into a graceful and firey swan.
They also tell me that women their age (~25 years old) are boring, immature and crazy. The men 45 that aren’t like this are in super high demand. There’s another explanation for my lack of dating success. After all I am the common denominator in all of this. I say the wrong thing, bat above my league, set my expectations too high. One incapable of convincing that she might actually be beautiful enough. I could continue dating much younger men, knowing full well there is zero long term potential and it will fizzle out within 2–5 dates.
If you don’t make it an issue, chances are it won’t be.
If you really like her, just go with the flow and be yourself, regardless of whether “yourself” is a silly, dorky, immature 57-year old or a wise and mature 24.
The idea of having any kind of family of my own dropped off my radar a long time ago. By far the more interesting stat was the dramatic difference in the average age of who swiped right and messaged me, relative to my Tinder age. Older men come with any combination of downsides that I find hard to tolerate — namely dad bods, viagra, ex-wives and teenage children.
I have dated for years and always with the same intention — I want to be in an exclusive relationship. The results showed that, not surprisingly, I got a much higher right swipe rate when my age was 27 compared to 37, and I got significantly more messages too. The higher my Tinder age, the younger the average age of the Tinder match. They’re often set in their ways and aren’t truly open to trying new things. More likely is the cynicism I carry around for dating.
One element of that style should be sexual restraint until a real emotional attachment has formed on his side—unless all you’re seeking is a fling.
When a piece of technology comes along and disrupts the way people do things, it needs time for people to work out what it all means. For backstory — I am 37 years old, female, white, Australian and I live in Manhattan. My male peers have an infinite pool to choose from, they can form relationships with younger women if they choose to and all is dandy. Only instead of everything being dandy like it is for my male counterparts, dating younger men when you’re my age comes with an age gap so vast, it is insurmountable. It doesn’t matter how mature, stable, interesting, whether you’re in your sexual prime, how ballerina-perfect your body is or how young you look, a younger guy might like to brag to his friends about bagging an older woman, And that’s the fucking truth.
Do be understanding I can get kind of defensive when dating older guys, worried that some might see me as another notch on the bedpost, or fresh meat to pass the time until someone more serious comes along.
She may be younger, but her feelings are just as genuine as yours. Do establish boundaries In some rather obvious ways you’re at different stages of life, so if you're just enjoying a fling make sure she isn't shopping for wedding dresses.
I could tell you they don’t, but I’d be lying, undercutting my own credibility, and going against data collected all over the world.
Yet you can successfully compete with younger women.